Taking the Mystery out of the Mysterious

When I wrote my book  The Jalapeno Handshake, Strategies to Heat Up your Business Relationships 5 years ago, I specifically talked about Goal Setting vs. Goal Getting. Many of us set goals. Not many achieve them. It all starts with our minds. I have been introduced to the concept over the years but never knew much more about it than what words told me. Like many others, I have a long list of events…seminars, webinars, conferences, workshops and an even longer list of books, CDs, DVDs, and downloadable audios that complimented my yearning to know more. …and so I did.

My passion crossed paths with an old favourite of many seekers, the classic book Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. And after reading the book several times (oh how I did not know the book is not just a book to read…it is a journey to experience) and over several years, I met a man who lived, ate and breathed the principles of Hill’s great accomplished book.  Mark and I met through business in 2012 and before long I learned he was offering a 13 week Think & Grow Rich webinar course!

I knew then that I attracted Mark and his passion for Hill’s work into my life. Studying under Mark to strip Hill’s work into paragraphs and churn them week after week, was a most welcomed adventure and one that aligned completely to my place of learning and yearning for more. Attraction?  Yes…no mystery that I met a guy and his fabulous wife Davene who were creating change in people’s lives simply by sharing what they also loved. It all started in my mind…wanting to know more about getting better results in my own life and how I could help others get more too.

More dots to connect…

Going back in time however, in 2009 I worked with a group of friends to create a “community” where people could mastermind  both in person and on line. The concept grew from my passions around the Think & Grow Rich book. The project plan was formulating over several months and I found myself presenting the concept to an on-line sales company who also valued the book’s teachings. Bottom line….not enough cash to kick-start the project the way I envisioned it….a highly interactive on-line presence . The concept of  “U Chooz” died even though my heart knew people all around the world would value such a meeting place to share their dreams, goals, challenges and support one another’s. 

While “U Chooz” was brewing, a different group of friends and I masterminded with Think & Grow Rich and soon began down the path of creating a “LifeFolio” concept where someone would hold their dreams and their planned actions to achieving them.  It was a fun project and again we knew what a valuable tool we had conceived.  This project didn’t have the legs we needed and at the same time, on-line apps were popping up everywhere and it became apparent the world was turning to apps and folios were on their way out. Concept great. Practicality not so much.

What do U Chooz or LifeFolio have to do with anything? Well, just because they were both sitting on back burners did not mean their concept value were gone…..again Mark and Davene enter my life in 2012 and voila….BOTH concepts are in the developed stage, well funded and growing more attention by each passing day…from people all around the world! Again my own thinking attracted them into my life to complete the circles I had been drawing several years earlier! Thank you Mark & Davene for your hard work and finished project that I could jump into and enjoy!

If  Think & Grow Rich wasn’t amazing enough, I then learned about Mark & Davene’s The Master Key – a tough 26 week intense deep dive into myself. I jumped in because I knew I could not say no to something as profound as their offer. My big hairy audacious goals were clearly set and in place from about 2 years earlier. How would the 26 week virtual class unfold with each of them I wondered.

It began in a totally unexpected way….my vision of writing a very personal book has been in place for 8 years now. It has been started and shelved on several occasions….my energy for the book is there and yet my confidence in writing it has waned. When Mark asked the Master Key Master Mind Alliance class to blog on a weekly basis, I must admit I resisted at first and wished myself through the blogs in the first few weeks. Then suddenly my perception of the task changed completely. The blogs were actually helping me get my confidence in writing back and soon I became more and more excited about my book project. Targeted for April 2016, I feel more sure of completing it than ever. MKMMA, the blogs, the confidence and my book….another mystery solved. I took the MKMMA not knowing it would challenge me in such a productive way and re-ignite my desire to write what I have started long ago.  

Giving back in a big way has always been something in my heart. Lots of little things I am proud to say I have been part of but I have always wanted to leave my mark on an impactful project of sorts….something that really changes lives in a big way. I was almost stunned to learn that after the first few weeks of the Master Key course started, Mark told us about a project he is supporting in Africa. Funds from the course will be sent to his African church contact who has become his dear friend…impact? oh yes! and in my own small way, I was part of that impact.

Then a few months later my daughter went to Ghana, Africa for her second trip to do some volunteer work with the World Credit Union Counsel, supporting and sharing her knowledge as a leader in the credit union system in Canada. Opportunities like these have crossed my own path several times as well based on my past executive role in the system as well. It has been a pleasure to see the opportunity come to mean so much to my daughter. After several months of placement discussions, my daughter’s Ghana contact and manager of  her village’s credit union, we learned she would be coming to Canada to learn directly from our business culture. Not just to Canada but to my daughter’s home to experience Canadian life as well as business. Florence was a beautiful woman who shared her heart and dreams with us over conversations like women do all over the world. We learned about her 3 children and also about her 7 adopted orphaned children, a problem Florence wants to remedy in her small village. Her dream? To build an orphanage and never see another child die on her streets alone.

As Florence opened her heart I knew what my “bright yellow square” goal meant…not just “volunteer work in a needy world community” . I knew it was to partner with Florence and the woman of her village to fix this sad situation.  Days later I spoke with another  credit union friend who Florence met while she visited us. I shared Florence’s story about the orphanage. Pamela said  without missing a beat…I have always wanted to help with an orphanage! The group of women  grew that moment.

How can I explain that a woman from Ghana Africa who has never left her village and surrounding area, came to my town thousands of miles away and we shared tea and our hearts and can now begin to plan how each of our dreams will come true….together.  The Master Key course had me reading and repeating my big goals every day, multiple times.  The Universe caught those dreams and help connect them to the right person. Thank you Master Key.

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined. ” Thoreau. This is one of my most favourite quotes ever. I have a wall hanging with it.  It is common enough and certainly the Master Key Master Mind Alliance reminded the class of it daily, multiple times, not in these words but in the exercises, self promises and so much more. You can imagine my surprise when I joined a new company, received the box of business tools and opened the first page of the Success Planner….there was my Thoreau…greeting me to my new business and reminding me what can be.

As I chuckle at the mysteries of manifestation,  I want to share that another big dream goal is to take my 3 grandkids around the world. I love to travel & sharing the world with them would be a thrill for us all. Little by little the trips have been happening and most recent they enjoyed coming along with me to Kauai, Hawaii where many Master Key Master Mind Alliance grads celebrated…. a full cycle perhaps. 

So is it all so mysterious or is it all a well planned and well orchestrated strategy for goal getting? The Master Key and Mark and Davene and their team would say it’s all in my HEART…and they would be so right!


Expecting the Unexpected

It is now only a matter of weeks before my 2014 Master Key Master Mind Alliance begins again.  I am feeling like a kid counting down weeks till Christmas….because I know it is going to be so magical…

I embarked on the class of 2013 along with hundreds of strangers from around the world….a virtual class by webinars allows for so many more “seats” and expands around the globe….in fact,  6 continents were represented last year. [Antarctica …where were you?]

What is so cool is that I now have relationships with so very many of the class participants! Face Book, Linked-in and even real life friendships as well as business relationships too. Incredible when I think of it. We convened as strangers and week by week we grew closer together and shared what most people don’t share with anyone…ever. It is a bond that is hard to describe…built on the likeness of one common denominator….each of us exploring how to get more out of our lives…big things, as well as little things….more in the sense of something more than works well, and also things that could be better, different and of course parts of our lives where we felt we could have less of something…all mixed together it was that common platform that brought us all together united in a singular purpose of sorts.

Heck who doesn’t want something more, better, different or less in their lives? Even when “everything is awesome” [ as my grandkids’ repeated Lego movie soundtrack says ] we want more of it, don’t we? Why wouldn’t we? ABUNDANCE is a key element of the Master Key course…so yes, I wanted more of some great stuff in my life….as well as the better , different and yes the less stuff too.

Each of us worked through the 26 weekly classes at our own pace and experienced something that made a difference to us…big differences and many many small differences….again all united in the experiences week by week…such an incredible journey actually….stuff movies can be made of.  So you can imagine why I am excited to begin again this time around…..after all I am a different person 12 months later and will see and experience each week’s lesson slightly different now I know. How could I not?

I have enjoyed many challenging  classes,  seminars and books  in my life, and often welcomed a deep dive into how we get our results in life…some pretty heady stuff for sure…..when you go down the rabbit hole further than most people ever would. I even do seminars on this topic because I love it so very much. But I have never experienced such a hands on, step by step guide on HOW to make the positive changes in our lives. It is one thing to hear the feel-good WHAT that needs to change, but the KEY is the HOW to do it…wow, what a difference! So that is where the 26 weeks of intense work comes into play…the best 26 weeks of my entire life, from a learning perspective…hands down.

Not many people are ready to take on a deep dive into their own heads and hearts. After all it’s scary to go to some places.  Einstein said only 2% of the population really think…no wonder…. thinking ….really thinking takes a lot of  curiosity, courage, commitment and then confidence to uncover our very own life’s buried treasures…..yes treasures they are…all of them, because when we can look at them differently, they change and in fact can become more of a treasure than we ever imagined possible.

Expect the unexpected…that is what I am ready for again this fall….with open arms! Bring it on Master Key Master Mind Alliance!

Care to step into your own new brave, bright, beautiful world? I would be honoured to walk the journey with you …virtual arm in virtual arm. Happy to share more anytime.

In gratitude.


Week 24 To Be or Not To Be- That is the Question


As I take the final couple of weeks to close off a remarkable Master Key MasterMind Alliance course, I realize I am not coming to an end of a fantastic virtual course, with amazing people from all around the world. Our extraordinary class trainers and guides have ensured each of us have come to a place of launching into a new place and a new way of BEing.  No endings, just renewed refreshed beginnings.

With my virtual tool kit jammed with new habits, practices, promises, and skills, I ask myself… To Be or Not To Be?

That is the question….am I fully and ready to BE me? How exciting to have come through 24 weeks of new uncoverings, new understandings, new discoveries, and new perspectives and a rewired program system to allow me to completely and  fully embrace all that can be. Who am I to BE all that I can be? Who am I to not?

I hold a sensation inside that is a mix of guarded anticipation and one of extreme readiness to hit the road running even faster.  That is how it has been gradually more and more, week by week since emerging myself in what at first seemed to be overwhelm. I knew back in Sept, I would be 26 weeks older when I finished this course. I made the choice to be 26 weeks older with new tools and skills and re-programming well in place. What a wise choice I made.

Back to my question…Yes world, I am stepping into more power, more belief, more faith and more trust in all and in myself than I have ever had in my life…ever! I am ready to BE all that I am able…which is an incredible amount. I welcome all the ups and downs and challenges ahead because I know and believe, each will be another notch in my tool belt to getting me even closer to my definite major purpose.

No time ever in my life have I been as prepared as I am now to take on new challenges and opportunities and embrace them for all they will show me. I will emerge with many steps closer to where I am headed and know I will have learned more again on this incredible journey of life.

Thank you MKMMA. I am ready to spread my wings even further and welcome our last couple of weeks together as a class.

Week 23 Are We There Yet? How Much Longer?

I took the 3 grand kids on a road trip last weekend to kick start their school spring break. It was just over 200 miles ( 300+ kms) and included a line up at the Canadian/USA border just south of Vancouver. It wasn’t just me heading across the border on that 1st day of spring break…the border crossing lineup was a long one.

Are we there yet? Yep, that was the question of the hour; of the day; and of the whole 3 day weekend. It didn’t matter how many times I explained the weekend game plan, the distance, the need for patience and cooperation, and the anticipated fun at the water resort called Great Wolf Lodge…none of that was considered when I was asked over and over and over again…are we there yet? or the second favourite…how much longer?

I am sure every reader has experienced these same questions and if not directly from your own kids, grand kids, or friends’ kids, you will all remember asking it yourselves when we were all kids! I believe it to be part of the human race DNA….those questions are just part of being human, I am sure of it. Some biologist will someday discover the ‘are we there yet’ gene.

So what’s this got to do with anything meaningful? Well, as our virtual Master Key class is coming to an official end….or perhaps just the REAL beginning, it made me think how similar many of us looking for life’s answers are really just like kids……sometimes for years we have been asking…are we there yet? how much longer before we find the answers? Reading good books, affirming the right stuff, staying positive, and so on and so on…..yet still asking and wondering when will we actually get there. Patience hasn’t been working and so often we don’t feel we are getting any closer to our goals.

Most of us have been there in some way or another and for those that got the answers they needed, wow, what a difference. Many of us however have been taking a step by step approach to getting “there” so to speak,  and what the Master Key System has been teaching us week by week, month by month is there is no THERE! Unlike a road trip to a water theme resort to hang out and have fun, our life’s journey for answers is all an inside road trip.Incredible really. Like the wait at the border crossing, we all do in fact need patience to cross our own borders, surrender our passports to confirm who we really are, and then make the trek to our destination of CHOICE.

As I made the trek with the grand kids, and the seemingly hundreds of questions about timing and location, I know I have felt the same anxiety, impatience, boredom, and frustration with my own internal journey, using every method possible to make the time and search go faster.

As I come to the real beginning… again…I use this incredible gift of the Master Key Master Mind Alliance as my new GPS compass and cross over all the borders I built over the years and can only see a clear purposeful path and destination ahead.

It’s PLAY time now! 

Week 22A It’s all about CHOICES

When I stop and think of all the millions of choices I have made throughout my life, it is overwhelming! Scientists say we make between 3000 to as high as 60,000 decisions every day! Hard to believe, I know. Even choosing to stay in bed with the covers pulled over our heads is a decision and a choice…leading to less decisions throughout that day, but still some that will need to be made.

When I reflect back on my own life, I have examined the bigger choices….family, relationships, career paths and business choices.  Once each was made, a new path began.

I share this exercise with you because it helped me to actually visualize my own personal emotional highs and emotional lows, so far in my life. A mapping out, if you will, of what happened at each decision crossroad. Here is the exercise….

  • draw a horizontal line about which will be the “age axis”
  • draw a vertical line on the far left of above line which will be the ” emotions axis”
  • be sure to place the vertical line so that it is evenly spaced on the horizontal so that you have a “neutral” zone. ABOVE the median will be Positive emotions. BELOW the median will be Negative emotions. Imagine the graph something like this:

Now take some time and plot your emotions from as far back as you can remember on the AGE axis…usually about 5 years old for most of us. Incrementally at about every 5 or so years, plot along that axis till your current age. If life was about neutral plot along the middle line. When happy emotions were super high, plot way up on the page. Likewise for the negatives…if very low, plot way down towards the the bottom of the graph. Take your time and continue to plot key memories and emotions for as many things as you can remember. You may want to make a note at each plot but not necessary.

Once you have plotted all your key memories, you can draw a line to connect each from the beginning (approx 5 yrs old) to current day. The line will show your ups and downs in life in a visual form.

What’s the point? Looking at the visual can sometimes help us to “see” our lives on reflection which can help us to make more powerful decisions moving forward. Sometimes when we examine each of the emotions…highs and lows, we can connect them to what was happening for us at those times. Often we can connect them to a “habit” in our decisioning process. Did we make the decisions at times of FEAR, ANGER, HURT FEELINGS, GUILT, UNWORTHINESS or because we were WHOLE, PERFECT, STRONG, POWERFUL, LOVING, HARMONIOUS, AND HAPPY ?

Of course controlling how we will PLOT moving forward is key. Reflecting is helpful and with our new negative FEELINGS as tools, we are able to build a much stronger future!

WEEK 22 Circumstances Conditions Environment

DREAMS….. How can a DREAM come true, if you haven’t got one?  A great question written about in lots of places…hardly a quote…just a simple question. Simple yet so meaningful.

While I journey through my deep dive Master Key Master Mind Alliance  (MKMMA) virtual course, I am moving toward my dreams in a more designed,  orchestrated manner, almost step by step. We often speak of  our “old blueprints” those that we have been building our lives with….not unlike the construction of a house. When the blueprint is not a solidly connected, strong structure design…house of cards type of design, how can we build a literally life-long progressive, healthy, purposeful life on it?

Working my way through the re-design phase of my own blueprint, to strengthen my foundation design  before I build on the many future years of more dreams,  I often think of climbers on Everest.  They have one main goal…the get to the summit…alive. I actually wonder if some make that their real primary goal, instead of making the goal summiting and returning alive. What really drives them? getting to the top or returning safely? I wonder.

So, when an Everest climber sets out from base camp, they know they have the ultimate goal in mind, yet they have many short term goals to achieve before getting to the summit. Years, months, weeks and days of preparation are simply part of their plan. Yet day by day, in fact, hour by hour, they must be ready to make changes. They take 3 things into account, almost minute by minute, CCE.

Circumstances – team readiness, timing and many more

Conditionsphysical, equipment, supplies and many more

Environmentweather – actual & forecast, landscape shifts, other teams and ?

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We are not any different….as we progress towards our goals. We have the goal set in our minds and having worked through this MKMMA we know how to work with a SUCCESS FORMULA:

DMP ( Definite Major Purpose) + PMA ( Positive Mental Attitude + POA ( Plan of Action + MMA (supported by a Master Mind Alliance) = Success!

The Everest climbers use this exact same formula. Every successful person does.

I was recently reminded how important using the CCE is along my own journey. As I was working with my POA ( Plan of Action), like the Everest climbers, I needed to take a close look at my current Circumstances, Conditions and the current Environment.  When I did take all CCE into account, I course corrected my route to ensure I too, would get to my end goal as desired….again, like the climbers, a step by step progression.

So with this is mind, I reminded  myself  to Never compromise a DREAM. ALWAYS compromise on how it will come true.

May you also remember to check CCEs and course correct as needed.

WEEK 21 Anger, Fear, Guilt, Hurt Feelings, Unworthiness- Tools for my mental toolkit!

So what do anger, fear, guilt, hurt feelings, , and unworthiness all have in common? Well we may say the obvious…that being negative feelings, and the kind most of us do not welcome into our lives with open arms. Makes sense of course. After all, who of us wakes up in the morning anxious to encounter something or someone who through some sort of action causes us to experience any of these noted feelings. Don’t sign me up!

Ah, but then…..with a fresh look and a new perspective, is it possible we can take each of anger, fear, hurt, guilt, and feelings of unworthiness and turn them into tools?? Can we really add them into our mental tool box and leverage each one when we do in fact encounter them? That was the challenge put to us this week in our MKMMA….How do we use these feelings as tools?

It never surprises me that we are charged with another deep and reflective exercise for the week. It so happens that each of these feelings crossed my heart so far in this week. How is that possible when I am a pretty happy go lucky person, someone with a positive mental attitude and one who always looks at a glass half full…preferably of a good wine? It is not a surprise to me as well, that when I am discovering something new about myself, the right and necessary question is put in front of me.

Back to these “tools”…..a busy, complex, and rather emotionally hectic week created the energy for me to have experienced each of these as I noted….unusual for all in one week… When I removed myself from each situation and in fact, became the observer, who was then looking at me and the situation from a distance, so to speak, each of the situations and the associated feelings made way more sense! I can’t always understand a situation when I am in the middle of it. The observer role allowed me to remove myself from the event and look at it with a more open mind, and simply detach from the outcomes. …like watching a play and simply observing and not making judgements. Who said, ” Observation is power. Judgement is weakness.” ? Some great mind I cannot remember.

So how did I use the tools?

For ANGER, I was able to use that intense energy to get me through not only the situation itself, but also it helped me to sustain it for a long stretch of time so I actually accomplished even more during that intense time. It made me stronger, not weaker. A great tool.

As to FEAR, well in a similar way that pounding in my heart made my energy levels higher than normal, so in order to work to rid myself of the fear, I concentrated more on the task at hand. That’s a good thing and made the task easier to deal with and is was finished faster. Another great tool.

So for GUILT, well it struck me as I was feeling it, it actually validated for me what my principles are; what I consider my integrity, my values. When I was feeling it, it felt I was out of alignment with these values. So is that a bad thing? Not if he helped me to get back into integrity. Yep, another great tool.

Ok, so for HURT FEELINGS, that was a troubling one. Then I realized I could only be hurt if I cared even about something or someone. I did as was the case. Wow, that was a show stopper to help me recognize that caring for someone or something is important and it sure is worth it when a hurt feeling comes along as a reminder. Add this tool to my mental toolbox forever.

UNWORTHINESS, this is a feeling I have been all too familiar with most of my life. It is one that I have chipped at overcoming over many years, yet pops up again every so often. When I experienced it this past week, I was immediately reminded about some unfinished business; some promises I made I needed to keep. That rang loud for me again as I valued the feeling when I could see its usefulness. A gentle nudge or a big bang…either way, it was a chance to get back to what was outstanding. Yes, another great tool.

So adding into my positive mental attitude toolbox, I can now say I have these 5 new tools. They are not for you to borrow. You can create your own should the situation occur.


Week 20 Rocks, Pebbles or Sand- What’s first in your jar?

This past week’s MKMMA class spoke about an empty jar and what we fill it with…bare with me while I share an old story I wrote about a few years ago. It is always worth sharing and remembering…

Philosophy 101

Once a philosophy professor stool before his class with some items in front of him. When the class began, he picked up a large empty jar and began to fill it with rocks about the size of his fist. When no more rocks would fit, he asked the class, “Is the jar full?” They agreed that it was.

The professor picked up a box pf pebbles and poured them into the jar. He lightly shook it and the pebbles rolled into the spaces between the rocks. When the pebbles reached the top of the jar, he asked the class again, ” Is the jar full?” They laughed and answered yes.

Finally the professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. It filtered into every small space between the rocks and the pebbles. He poured quite a bit of sand into the jar until it reached the top. He shook the jar until it all settled.

“Now”, he said. ” I want you to recognize that this is your life. The rocks are the important things- your family, your partner, your health, your children, all the things that, if everything else were lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter, like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.

“If you put the sand into the jar first, you don’t have room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have time for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your kids; take time to get medical checkups; take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, have a dinner party, and fix the disposal.

“Take care of the rocks first- the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand. ”

Think about all the time wasters people indulge in. How much time do people spend in front of the TV? The most recent survey I heard, said approx 2.5 hrs a day! That is about the same amount of time it would take for anyone to get into extreme physical fitness, or write a novel, maybe learn a new language.

What are you putting into your empty jar the start of every day?

Week 19 Pain or Pleasure and Success

If you ever have any doubt about the mind’s effects on the body, try speaking in front of a group.   Public speaking consistently ranks at or near the top in surveys of our greatest fears.  Most people, when asked to speak before a group, will feel their heart race, the mouth gets dry, stomach churns unpleasantly and breathing becomes shallow and fast.  They are in no physical danger, yet the body reacts the same way as our ancestors did when they came face to face with a predator.

The emotions we experience are caused by associations created from the programming we learn mostly from childhood. These emotions may or may not gel into complete thoughts, but at some point the emotion will manifest itself into a physical sensation.  As with the public speaking, sometimes the sensations will be unpleasant.  Other times they may be more pleasant. 

What does all of this have to do with success?  It applies for a couple of reasons.  First, if some thoughts provoke pleasure, while others cause pain, we will naturally try to have more of those thoughts that bring us pleasure, and fewer of those that cause us pain.  We move away from pain toward pleasure.



The mind can be very shortsighted, however.  It may be necessary to go through temporary discomfort to achieve a higher level of pleasure.  For example, exercise can be physically uncomfortable, even painful, at times.  Left on its own, the mind would try to move you away from this pain. The conscious mind, however, understands that physical exercise can improve your quality of life and help you live longer.  Going through temporary pain, then, leads to a greater pleasure.  You override the mind’s first impulse to achieve the goal you desire.  Most people who exercise regularly eventually come to enjoy it, and the mind’s painful associations are eliminated.

One thing that we know for sure is that successful people are usually willing to do things that less-successful people make a conscience decision not to do. The successful person may work extra hours, cold call on a new prospect, or forego leisure time to attend school or workshops.   There is temporary pain associated with these activities, but these high achievers understand that a greater pleasure awaits them.

Secondly, the mind’s ability to create pleasurable sensations can be a motivator only if it’s done properly.  Aim for a goal that excites you a lot and only scares you a little.  Very often, goals are imposed on us by other people, either directly or by peer pressure.  Members of a sales team may all shoot for $100,000 a year in commissions.  This may be fine, but it may also hurt one or more members.

Think about it – the goal represents both pleasure (excites you) and pain (scares you.)  The particular dollar amount that excites you a lot and only scares you a little is unique to you.  Your childhood, your current circumstances, or any number of other factors determine how the amount affects you. 

In the same way, any ambitious goal can affect you emotionally, actually hurting performance, because the excitement is outweighed by the fear.  Your mind finds a way to work against the very thing you want to achieve.  Choose your goals carefully and pay attention to the emotions and physical sensations that your goals evoke.


Week 18 What would the person I intend to become, do next?

The big question that was given to our MKMMA class last week was… What would the person I intend to become, do next?”

Whoaza! I have spoken to several class members since and know this hit them as much as it hit me…or better said…knocked me over! It’s always comforting to know I am not alone when a doozy like that crosses my path.

What is one to do with a rocket question like that??

It immediately made me sit up taller, physically which was strange in and of itself… but emotionally taller for sure. That reaction was coupled with a stream of thoughts of things I could do…. that was good news I figured because after all these weeks….18 but who is counting? I had better come up with something!

It is like that question woke me to new action and I know I am already an action maker. So what gives? I turned to my trusty old favourites….what could I be doing  MORE  BETTER  DIFFERENT  or  LESS?

These 4 almost magic words have served me well in the past…both personally and professionally.  I use them often when I work with corpoarte leaders, and even personally with people who may get stuck from time to time.  Pretty much everything can get put into one of these 4 buckets.

So I found myself filling each bucket in the last few days…with ideas that the person I intend to become would do…..a little MORE of this. A little BETTER with that….A few odds and ends in the DIFFERENT bucket and in fact, I added the most in the LESS bucket.

The question sits with me all day, every day. I have it written on an index card and it stares at me! I made several cards with the same question so I will not be without it…desk, car, bathroom, nightstand. and refrigerator door.

I am happy to share the question with you too…..What would the person you intend to become, do next?